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Thursday, December 17, 2009
Sleep
With me going back to work our schedules have changed in the past couple of weeks. Conner has been waking up at 4am almost every day and that really can't happen. I have to get up at 5:30am to get ready for work. We usually go to bed around 10pm so it's not like we put him to bed super early. He also usually sleeps in his swing or in our bed (don't judge me). I want him to start sleeping in his crib though. Does anyone have any adivce for me or tips?
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I am sure a lot of people will tell you to have him "cry it out" but Please do a lot of research if you're going to try it.
I think it's great that he sleeps with you, and Rowan slept in his swing for quite some time too, so don't feel bad about it! You're a great mom!
I really have no advice, Rowan wakes up every 2 hours still, but good luck! I hope you start getting more sleep soon!
We lived in an apartment and so I couldn't let them "cry it out" very long. And both of my boys still wanted a bottle once a night until 7 months (Ashton) and 9 months (Kaleb). But they would go right back to sleep after. So I didn't mind so much. It's hard when they're little because they don't just 'go back to sleep'. We had those desperate nights where they slept in their car seat or in the bouncer (with the vibrations on--went through lots of batteries) so don't feel bad if you have rough nights like that.
Hopefully you can slowly wean him to his crib so that you can get some sleep to. I've heard putting them in the crib for naps so they get use to it helps but I'm not sure.
Just do what works for you. I know it's hard. But you're a good mom!
Amber, I disagree with the other comments. I think if you want him out of your bed, the sooner you do it the better. I love my pediatrician - LOVE HIM! He gives the best parenting advice ever!!! And this stuff makes sense and it works! If you want to hear his recommendations ask me at work. Worked for my boys!
I guess I need to clarify - I disagree with some comments. One thing doesn't work for everyone and I understand that. Every mom is different.
I do agree with this though, you are a great mom and you have everyone's best interest at heart :)
Max slept in his swing until almost 4 months old. Then we decided it was time for the crib.It took him a month to get used to. What we bought was the Fisher-Price Seahorse when he was around 2 years old. It plays music and has a night light and goes off after 5 minutes. We would just do the same routine every night at the same time and after a month he was back to sleeping through the night.Good luck!
I don't agree with the crying it out method. It stresses a kid out! I'm a big advocate of co-sleeping! This is why....This child spent 9 months inside of you. He was warm. He had familiar sounds all the time. The swaying when you walked, your heartbeat, even the grumblings of your stomach were soothing to him and still are. Now he's been thrusted into this worls where there are bright lights, loud sounds, and it's cold!!! All he wants is to be back somwhere familiar. I have co-slept with both of my kids and continue to do so. This is why I do it. They sleep and I sleep! When my youngest was born he would stop breathing a.k.a. sleep apnea when he was down for a nap. At night every once in a while he would sleep in his bassinet and he'd still have the sleep apnea. So I brought home to bed with us. My breathing got his breathing to regulate!! AMAZING! On top of that you a re showing your kids love and compassion. On average it takes a child 2 years for them to figure out a sleep schedule. At about 2 and half is when my oldest started sleeping through the night. Yes he woke up at least twice a night at 2 years old. Our kids know that they are welcome to come to our bed at anytime. And our boys are really good at knowing that. They only come when they are having bad dreams or not feeling well. If this is not something you are comfortable doing for a long period of time try the methods in the book "The No-Cry Sleep Solution" by Elizabeth Pantley. I will let you know that this book has some wonderful methods but just like everything in parenthood you have to stick with it. I do a lot of attachment parenting so if you are ever wondering about anything I'm always here! Also just because some doctor says your son shouldn't be in your bed or you shouldn't feed him at night....go with your gut. You're not going to screw your child up by letting him sleep in your bed or giving him a bottle at night. If anything you will probably reinforce the notion once again that you are always there for him no matter what!
This is a tough one. From day one with both of my kids I wouldn't allow them to sleep in my bed. I kept them swaddled tightly in a basinet next to me. When they would fuss I would reach in and they would hold onto my finger. Soon they didn't need my finger anymore. I moved the bassinet into their room, and then into the crib. I also made sure the room was dark (no nightlights) and the door was shut. Someone told me that this would get them used to knowing that the dark means sleep, and the dark will in turn help them get to sleep. Both my kids now wake up at times in the night and come sleep in my bed, but I never put them to sleep in my bed. I don't think that there is really any one solution for everyone. Every kid is different, and as a parent our stress levels are also different. Good luck!
It's probably cause he misses you while you are gone and wants to see you in the morning and spend time with you before you leave. And like the others I think there is nothing wrong with keeping your baby in bed with you. I agree with SteveandAmanda If you are both happy with it and the baby sleeps better I think it is good for the baby to be close to mommy especially since he probably misses you during the day when you are gone. Almost all working moms I know babies wake up at night. They are just making up for lost time during the day! I think keeping them in bed or in your room is the best solution. He also just may honestly be hungry. But you gotta do what will work best for you and what you are comfortable with. Good luck you will get through it!!!
Put him in his dang crib Amber... He needs to learn sometime:)Part of being a good parent isn't always doing what they want.
Just do it!!!
Thanks for the comments, thoughts and advice! I love being a member of the Mom Club. It's great to know that other people are going through or have been through the same things and that we can all help each other out!
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